Redefine Love
Love. I think it is a feeling like any other. In order to sustain itself, it has to grow. Is there love at first sight? I'd think not. That should be lust because we're attracted to a person's physical form. If you consider love as a state of being, then does that mean hate is also a state of being? Everything has to stem off from somewhere. So it has to be conditioned. We grow to appreciate someone and after much understanding, we will eventually come to love that person. I do not think love is absolute because it encompasses all the good things. Sort of like a collaboration of good stuff. I don't think it has an opposite. It's on its own. Just like how hate is something that has to grow from somewhere. You can't suddenly say, "I hate this or that." People just say those things senselessly. Hate is derived from strong disliking. So strong that your ego takes over and you see no good in someone or something anymore. Difference when it comes to love is that the ego is dropped. Ego embedded love is a totally different ball game. I haven't the slightest idea what one defines that. So we won't go there. What I do know that it's contemporary. In thing, actually.
Is there such a thing as the person makes you feel as a whole because of love? You're on a whole in the first place. You weren't half before the love of your life came along. So when people have this concept and their love breaks down, they don't feel on a whole anymore. Some become distressed; others become depressed and the rest go berserk. Yes. Literally. One has to learn to love oneself first before one can learn to love someone else. What about the phrase he/she completes me? They should compliment one other. How can someone else complete who you are when you are yet to fully discover yourself? Most of us, sadly, have this misconception of love due to media influence. Many will deny this truth but it does have a strong influence on us, unknowingly. Love doesn't just involve two people. You can love anyone based on the understanding above. The special love that occurs between couples, married or otherwise, is the one that takes two people or more depending what you categorize your special love as.
The norm usually involves two people who have no understanding of what this special love is. They somehow believe that they do know what this whole love game is all about. They're always expecting things to be perfect and usually expecting the other person to change according to their wants and needs. Compromising oneself for someone else is fine but a total transformation? No. Why let someone rule your life? If you're bound to make a change in your life, do it for your own self. That is ideal. Else, it will become something that is imposed upon and you will end up being insincere.
Then there are all these overused phrases such as if you really love someone, you must let them go and I love him/her so much yet I hate him/her. Thank you media. So how does the concept of letting the other party go define true love? Wait, true love? You mean there is false love too? Thank you media, once again. If they don't come back then they were never meant for you? Either you were being an idiot or you had no idea that the person had already dumped you. The whole basis of your faith in love merely runs down to a game of chance. You can't be extremely happy and extremely sad at the same time like how some people would have you believe. This, to me, is an illogical statement. If you're able to reach that stage, let me know. I'd love to figure out the mechanics of such a feat.
People have been pondering on the subject of love time and time again. No one has a solid answer. I know I don't. They're unable to conjure one up because they don't think and reflect. Even when they do, they spew out half baked shit. Just like how I have? As we progress, our current understanding on issues should change. A must, if the need arises. I hope mine will. Till then. Always. Love.
2 comments:
And then there is also different types of love. If you ask me, love is just another overused word like jesus and religion. Like shit and fuck. We expound profanities alot. we also talk of love alot. Its the stupid basic need we must fulfil to feel "complete" according to maslowe's hierachy of needs. the lowest level of the foundation to which we must feel affection to feel sane. Yet how much of it do we actually need in this day and age? Its just like if i say, marriage is a human created social construct. We weren't born to get married. If the idea marriage did not occur to the early man, what would we have now? So since its a social construct, how can it always be out of the rubbish called love? So maybe, just maybe.. we've been programmed to love. maybe if early man made it different, (like for example you feel affectionate towards another, you fuck bear kids and then when you get tired, move on to another just like animals) wouldn't it be just that, now?
Enelrahs,
I have to agree with you here when you say that the word love is overused and how it has become a need in our lives.
I'd reckon these days we need a massive load of love, so that someone can use that love as an excuse to wage wars on the unloved.
It's interesting to note that many of us may have been programmed, manipulated actually, to love, whereas others couldn't give two fucks about it. I wish I could meet more of such people in this era.
If early man had done us such a favour, we wouldn't have to worry about society's point of view on everything. I wonder how life would be in that aspect. Maybe the word sex would have been overused?
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